What does “great sex” mean to you? Naturally and logically, pleasure would be the first thing that comes into mind. However, how men and women view and experience sexuality and perceive sex are different; what great sex means to men might not mean the same to women. In fact, there are many factors contributing to how we experience our own sexuality and how we feel about sex which goes beyond desire and sexual initiatives, especially among women.
While sexual topics remain as taboo in many countries, including Malaysia, many of us, especially the younger generations would typically turn to pop culture or our peers for sexual guidance and references. With that being the case, no one truly talks about the importance of truly acknowledging and recognising sexual pleasure and rights, as well as the feelings of shame, embarrassment, fear and confusion which are usually associated with sexual health.
Understanding our sexual rights to pleasure
Unfortunately, with the lack of sexual education and in the society’s social norms, women have been given different outlooks, morals and expectations of sex compared to men, rather than equally. For instance, in the eyes of society, fertility has always been the focus, instead of pleasure – women are expected to have sex for the pleasure of their partners, while men are not expected to return the favour and thus, the cause to sexual avoidance.
However, through communication and by exercising control over our own bodies, it opens the door to achieving the sexual pleasure that we desire as a woman and an individual. “When women are empowered and comfortable wanting pleasure, communicating our thoughts on what works and what doesn’t – not only will this change the power dynamic of the relationship, it becomes much easier for them to open discussions about pleasure and consent. This is also one of the ways for us to protect our sexual rights as a woman as well,” said Yap Yann Fang, CEO and Founder of Beauty & Co. .
Raise your sexual self-esteem
Sexual self-esteem, on the hand, plays another major role in our ability to maintain a healthy and close relationships with ourselves and our partners, as well as to achieve a good sexual health. While we live in a world that puts a lot of emphasis on the importance of physical appearance, it is almost inevitable for women to have negative thoughts on their body image spiralling in their minds. More likely than men, women who don’t feel comfortable or sexually attractive in their own bodies have lower sex drive, sexual frustrations and dissatisfactions which affect their sexual relationship with their partners.
Apart from body image issues, sexual self-esteem also goes in the other direction, where sexual dysfunctions come into place with age, physical and hormonal factors. As women age, they will gradually lose their main source of oestrogen and their pelvic floor muscle weakens can make sex uncomfortable or painful, leading to the fear of sexual intimacy and sexual avoidance.
Unfortunately, it is fairly common for most women to have sexual issues or to feel self-concious about their bodies at some point in their lives, and that is okay. Nevertheless, we are always given the option to improve ourselves in our mindsets to have a more positive and healthier relationship towards our bodies and sex.
“In order to make the best health choices, whether it be for physical, mental or sexual health, we must always first, understand our own bodies and needs, embrace our imperfections, and invest time and effort to love ourselves from the inside-out,” Yap added.
There are no shortcuts to getting our sexual health in-checked, but it’s never too late to change our old ways and to work on becoming a sexually healthy person – after all, every woman is entitled to a happy, healthy sex life. There are various sexual health high tech treatments that is used to improve women’s overall intimate satisfaction, as well as to treat sexual health issues such as the renowned non-invasive and non-surgical treatment, Emsella. Available at Beauty & Co, the Emsella chair is designed to revolutionise intimate health and wellness, offering breakthrough treatment for urinary incontinence, recovery after childbirth and improvement in the quality of their intimate life for women within 30 minutes with no downtime.
Beauty & Co is a beauty clinic offering various premium beauty and wellness services with a flagship store located currently in The Gardens Mall. The extensive menu of services ranges from body and facial treatments to weight loss and wellness treatments with its latest high tech machineries for slimming and sculpting, as well as sexual health and pelvic floor tightening body such as Emsella and Exilis Ultra 360. To learn more about what Beauty & Co. offers, visit https://beautyncoclinic.com/
